A little story about the day Eddie asked me to marry him…sorta.
It’s a story worth telling, I think.
As a disclaimer, my husband is sometimes sweet and thoughtful…and often a pain in the butt. We had a very unconventional and short dating relationship. And a remarkably short engagement, but I’ll get to that.
It had been less than four months since we’d met. We’d been “together” three months. We were sitting in the living room at his apartment. My lease was about to expire on my condo and I was looking at houses. He saw one that looked perfect and called the number listed. I’m half-listening to his conversation and half-browsing other houses online. I hear him tell the guy, “Well if it’s OK with you, my soon-to-be wife and I will stop by and check it out.”
Wait. What??? What did he say???
He hung up the phone like nothing happened and proceeded to tell me what the guy said.
I stopped him. “Soo…were you going to ask me?”
“Ask you what?”
“You called me your ‘soon-to-be wife.'”
“So…were you gonna ask me?”
“Did I need to?”
Omg this dude.
“Well that’s typically how it works I think.”
“Has anything about our relationship ever been typical?”
“Ok…fair enough. But you should still ask me.”
“Fine. Marry me?”
“Oh for crying out loud.”
I rolled my eyes and walked in the other room to get ready to go see the house.
We go look at the house, come back to his apartment and have dinner then settle in to watch a movie.
He looks over at me and says “Well???”
“Well are you gonna marry me or not?”
11 days later we were husband and wife.
Maybe not the most romantic proposal, but he’s more than made up for it. He’s sincerely asked me to marry him every night since we married…even emailing from deployments, calling from the academy and in the hospital.
I may not have needed to say yes…but I’m glad I did.
Moral of the story: lots of guys can woo you with romantic words and gestures they know you want… but the best men aren’t necessarily the ones who give the best speeches down on one knee. The best men are the ones who know life requires spending a lot of time down on your knees. Because life is hard and marriage is hard and it takes more than flowery words and some jewelry to make it through. Look below the surface. Is he about the show or the sacrifice? Choose accordingly.