I don’t pretend to be a perfect wife or woman in general…but for what it’s worth, I have a little piece of wisdom (I learned the hard way) for my fellow females and I say this with the upmost love:
STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT YOUR MAN IS DOING.
(Yes. I mean it. Put his phone down.)
The reality is…he will either be faithful or he will not. If he is, awesome! You got a good man! Don’t screw it up being paranoid. If he isn’t, you’ll find out. We’re women. We always find out. And if he isn’t faithful…hear me here…you’ll be just fine without him!
I don’t say that lightly…but here’s the deal…
When I was younger there is NO WAY I could have been a police officer’s wife. Why? Because I didn’t trust anyone. And this life is not conducive to being untrusting.
I was convinced any man would eventually cheat on me. And I had good reason to think so. I had a knack for finding dudes like that.
But after my divorce and another disastrous relationship, I hit rock bottom and I guess when I did it knocked some sense into me and I realized something.
I may not be perfect, but I’m pretty ok. All by myself. And I will not waste another minute of my life on someone who doesn’t see that.
For the first time in my life I can honestly say I haven’t spent one second of my relationship with my husband worrying about if he was being faithful. I’m not worried about it.
Part of that is, I absolutely don’t believe he would cheat, because I got a good man.
BUT… that’s not why I don’t worry. I don’t worry because I know now what I bring to the table.
If he screws this up it’s his loss because he has a woman who loves him more than life and he knows it. He’s a darn good man. I’d have to be an idiot to throw that away. I’m not perfect. Neither is he. But we love each other. He doesn’t deserve my suspicions and I don’t deserve his. We legit just trust each other… because we trust ourselves and our God. And it makes me wonder why I ever accepted anything less.
You see…trust really isn’t about the other person. You can’t control their behavior. You can only control what you do.
It’s not them you need to learn to trust. It’s you and the One who made you.
So be a person worth sticking around for and know what you bring to the table. Then stop stalking him and giving the evil eye to every female he talks to. They’re not all the enemy. Many of the females in my husband’s life have become very good friends of mine. You never know…if you’re nice you may actually make a new friend too.