|3 THINGS TO STRIVE FOR IN 2019|
It’s New Year’s Eve. A time for saying goodbye and beginning anew. As I type this there are fireworks going off every few seconds. My children say it’s for Daddy’s birthday. Their squeals of delight pierce the darkness as they stand outside to see the displays. They say it sounds amazing. He says it sounds like Afghanistan. Funny how our experiences change how we see things isn’t it?
As I mentioned, it’s my husband’s birthday, too. Another year of life with the most incredible man I have ever known. Another year of memories and love and watching our babies grow.
Tonight we get to usher in new year together.
But while the rest of the world looks excitedly toward the New Year, our blue family has a slightly different perspective. After all, our experiences change how we see things.
As I sit here tonight listening to the happy laughter, the celebration, the joy…I can’t help but think of 148 families who don’t get another year. There are no memories to be made with their officer in 2019. Because they didn’t make it home.
148 line of duty deaths.
148 lives taken too soon.
148 families that have to find a new normal in 2019.
148 times this year we had to say goodbye.
So often we’re tempted to think, why them? But I think sometimes it’s important to ask ourselves, why not us? How are we so fortunate to have another day, another year, another chance?
Sure, it’s may seem depressing, but in reality, this life…this perspective…it’s a gift.
Some people go all year without ever considering what life would look like if they suddenly didn’t have the one they loved. But not us.
So I’d like to offer some suggestions for your New Year…from behind the line.
Look around you. So often we get caught up in our day to day rush and we forget to stop and look around. These are the moments, these every day miracles, that we’ll miss someday. Pay attention to the way your daughter’s hair curls on her forehead, to the way your teenage son laughs, to the way your husband’s hand fits in yours. Capture it all. Life is happening right in front of you. Don’t miss it being distracted.
Let it go.
If there’s anything I have seen through the years in groups with officer’s wives, it’s that we hate to get into arguments before shifts. Hate. It. There’s always this sick feeling that you let them walk out the door on bad terms and what if they don’t walk back through it. It’s something the rest of society doesn’t often consider…but they should.
The truth is, no one is immune to tragedy. No one is promised tomorrow. We should all keep this perspective in mind in our relationships. Life’s too short for petty fights and selfish arguments. I’m not saying you shouldn’t deal with your issues. You should. But sometimes, you just have to learn to let things go. If it won’t matter this time next year, does it really matter?
For everything. Even the irritating stuff. There’s always something to be grateful for in every situation. Sometimes you really have to look for it, but it’s there. Today I walked by my daughter’s sweatshirt hanging on the dining room chair. I immediately got irritated the she didn’t put her stuff away. But then I remembered my husband telling me about his mom’s purse…how after she passed no one wanted to move it from where she has last set it. My precious little girl is still here for me to scold for leaving her sweatshirt on the chair. What an incredible gift.
I hope you’ll take a little “blue” perspective into your New Year and make 2019 a year full of amazing memories. And please don’t forget those who gave all to protect you in 2018. Happy New Year.